Lifeline: Texting

So one of the hardest things in life is seeing people leave your life forever, especially if there was a romantic component. While my personality does not like the limitations imposed when people break up, I have had to live by them since the other people involved do live by those social norms. These include the idea that you cannot be friends and all communication must cease, which is sometimes a case by case outcome. Regardless to be wiped out completely from someones life is painful. Unfortunately what can make it worse is having your world be so connected with that person's world that everywhere you go there is literary a reminder of them which pops up at inconvenient or unexpected moments. For example, going to one of the counselor's offices to get information for your students and running smack into the picture of that person for whom you no longer exist. Added to this that somehow you were looking for that picture in the first place which only adds another level of complexity. What follows is that moment of wanting to reconnect to send a dumb message that will not change anything, "Hey your counselor still has your picture" in false affirmation because ultimately it is done more out of selfishness out of fulfilling my own desires. Luckily there was a lifeline and I texted a friend who encouraged me to stay strong. I asked her to call me later and check to see if I remained strong, because that tempting moment is often too persistent. One text can be a lifeline and one response can help someone not to fall back on their resolutions those promises they have made to themselves about the new life they want to live. Staying strong during the small tempting moments is going to be what sees me through the harder moments to come.